Elopement – is more than just the quick, courthouse wedding that we’ve seen in the past. Over the years it has emerged into its own category of the wedding industry. Believe it or not, elopement can require the need of a coordinator. We’ve coordinated a few elopements in our past and each hold unique memories and have been unforgettable. More and more couples are opting for elopement. Some couples want an intimate celebration, others don’t want to be the center of attention for the day, and some want to just create a romantic escape. Even though eloping is conducted typically quickly, or without the knowledge of loved ones, there are still motions that need to be set into place to create an unforgettable elopement. 

#01: Create Your Budget

Yes, we’re going to start with our favorite step – the budget creation. Whether your hosting a 500 person affair, or just an intimate ceremony of 5, you must set a budget. Costs will arise no matter how big or small your wedding celebration is. You will need to sit down and talk numbers with your partner and determine what you feel comfortable spending. The largest part of your budget will be determined by what style or type of elopement you will plan on having. 

#02: Pick a Destination 

In the past, elopements traditionally have been at the courthouse. We’ve all heard stories of relatives, grandparents, or seen in movies the couple rushing to the courthouse for their civil ceremony. While many couples still choose to say their vows at the courthouse, more couples are choosing to get married at a specific destination. Now, when we say destination, this can be hiking to a secluded spot on your favorite, or jet setting to your favorite location. Destination elopements have become a large part of our industry. As you think about your destination, select a destination that is within your budget and stays true to who you both are as a couple. Perhaps you’ll want to pick a spot that has sentimental value to you, or plan a trip to a place that you’ve always dreamed of. Research the best location for you and plan accordingly. 

#03: Marriage License and Laws

Running off and celebrating is one thing, but you need to ensure that your marriage is legal wherever you choose to get married. If you are choosing to plan a destination wedding, you will need to research the laws, legal requirements, and any necessary items you may need or follow to tie the knot properly. If you’re getting married stateside, check out the county clerk office or research city hall. Determine how to obtain a marriage license, how early you will need to obtain a license and what your steps are. If you’re looking at doing a destination wedding, check the rules and laws on how to obtain your marriage license. If you are planning on having a friend or loved one marry you, make sure that they have the credentials too. There are many websites where you can legally become an ordained minister. 

#04: Book Vendors and Hire a Planner

Even if you elope, you will still need to think about the details. This includes hiring a photographer, thinking about a celebration or dinner/reception. Consulting with a wedding planner that has experience in coordinating elopements is a great starting place. These coordinators will have experience and advice that a typical planner may not have. They may know of specific photographers that travel or videographers with drones to capture your unique location. Elopements can still be a stressful process, so don’t be afraid or feel like you should be able to handle it solo. 

#05: Consider a Post-Elopement After Party 

Eloping can be such a special moment between two people. There’s something about the intimacy that really makes it unforgettable. Although this moment is private between you and your partner, you can still opt for a reception with your loved ones. Many couples chose to create a combination between an elopement and a reception. Gathering your guests together can still be a surprise or you can create a more intimate reception gathering. Some couples plan an anniversary celebration a year later or choose to host a dinner. Whatever you decide, this is a great option to include those you love in the celebration, but keep your ceremony a true elopement. 

#06: Don’t Forget to Announce

After all is said and done, take a moment to formally announce that you’ve tied the knot. If you’ve booked a photographer, snag one of the photos and create an announcement. Although you didn’t have guests to partake in the affair, they can still enjoy and celebrate this moment in your life. Think about thoughtful ways to announce, whether hosting a dinner party, sending out announcements, or planning an affair. And, before you post your elopement on social media, ensure that the folks in your life that must know find out before it hits socials. 

Eloping offers a unique and truly magical experience. You can create an experience that is truly unique to you and your partner. Whether you take a hike to a remote mountain or plan to get married on the beach, it creates a private moment to celebrate. And just because you eloped, doesn’t mean that you can’t make that big announcement or celebrate with loved ones, because you can. If you’re thinking about taking the jump and planning an elopement, reach out to us today! We would be thrilled to help you plan your getaway! 

Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.