Months and months—and hey, sometimes even years—go into planning a wedding. Couples want to create an unforgettable experience, not just for themselves, but for their guests too. One of the most overlooked opportunities to impress? That sweet little space of time between your ceremony and reception.
We call it cocktail hour—and while it’s short, it can set the tone for everything that follows. So how do you make it more than just a filler on your timeline? Let’s turn it into one of the highlights of your wedding day.
#01: Set the Scene with the Perfect Space
The vibe you create during cocktail hour can either build excitement or send guests straight to their phones. Whether you host outdoors, under a tent, or in an open-air garden, think about the energy you want to set.
Stylish lounge furniture, bistro tables, lush florals, and warm lighting can transform any corner into a scene that feels curated and intentional.
Pro tip: Consider using a space that’s separate from your reception to create that “unfolding” effect. It helps each part of your day feel distinct and keeps that wow factor building.
#02: Serve Signature Cocktails that Tell a Story
Sure, beer and wine are classics—but signature cocktails? That’s where the personality shines.
Choose drinks that reflect your story, heritage, or wedding location. Getting married in New Orleans? Serve a Sazerac. Beach wedding? Coconut mojitos, please. And don’t forget to name them—bonus points for clever references to pets, family members, or inside jokes.
Include a non-alcoholic mocktail option so every guest feels included, and create a custom cocktail board with names and descriptions so everyone knows what they’re sipping.
#03: Wow Them with Delicious Bites
Guests will be hungry after the ceremony, and hangry guests are not the vibe. Go beyond the cheese and crackers. Offer passed bites, unique food stations, or even interactive options like a build-your-own taco trio bar.
Mix up textures and flavors, and always have options for dietary restrictions. Think vegetarian, gluten-free, or dairy-free selections so every guest feels considered.
#04: Elevate the Entertainment
Music matters. Whether it’s a string quartet, acoustic guitarist, or curated playlist by your DJ, it sets the mood. Want to really surprise your guests? Add something unexpected like:
A strolling violinist
A live painter
A caricature artist
A photobooth with custom props
This is where you can get creative and show your personality.
#05: Think About Guest Comfort
Chances are you’ll be off taking photos post-ceremony, so make sure your guests are taken care of in your absence.
• Provide seating (not just high tops) for older guests or anyone in heels
• Add rugs, throw pillows, and cozy lounge furniture
• If it's hot: offer fans, parasols, chilled towels, and iced water
• If it's cold: bring in heaters, cozy blankets, or even a hot cider station
Comfort is key—and your guests will thank you for it.
#06: Create Instagram-Worthy Moments
You know what they say—if it’s not on the ‘gram, did it even happen?
Incorporate photo-friendly backdrops and surprise design details that’ll have guests reaching for their phones:
Neon signage
Floral walls or hanging installations
Personalized stir sticks and napkins
A vintage mobile bar cart
A themed corner that ties into your story
And of course, don’t forget your wedding hashtag!
#07: Keep the Flow Smooth and the Energy High
Timing is everything. Cocktail hour should usually last 45–60 minutes. Keep an eye on the vibe—if guests start losing energy or looking around aimlessly, it’s time to move them into the reception.
Make sure your planner or day-of coordinator is keeping everything flowing smoothly. From music cues to food delivery and glass clearing, this is where behind-the-scenes magic matters.
So Raise a Glass…
Cocktail hour may be one small part of your wedding day, but when done right, it becomes a defining moment. It’s where your guests feel welcomed, connected, and fully immersed in the celebration.
With a little planning, a touch of personality, and thoughtful design, your cocktail hour won’t just be a break in the schedule—it’ll be a moment.
Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 20 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.